CharlieMC (charliemc) wrote,

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Garbage and Recycling (sigh)

Yeah, I'm doing the garbage and recycling at past 3 a.m. in the morning.

Don't bother scolding me for delaying, though.

I mean, the funeral we attended tonight lasted more than two hours.

Yes, seriously.

And we were freezing during it. (And both Marilyn mistressmarilyn and I had open-toed shoes on.)

(yikes) Has anyone heard of turning up the heat?

No, I can't even discuss the details of the funeral. But let's just say if you're going to design one, less is more.

In my life I've helped with some that were declared the best funerals people ever attended, so I do know what I'm talking about.

Oh, and if you're doing a slide show of photos of your loved one that includes actually playing three songs all the way through, then yeah, you've been excessive. Enough said. (The idea isn't to try and show someone's entire life. Really, it's not.)

After we escaped from said funeral, we headed directly home without doing any of the errands we'd planned. I think we arrived here right around 9:30 p.m. (after a long day of work).

We did eat something, but it wasn't a nice, hot dinner. Neither one of us felt like cooking, frankly.

Then we did was have a much-needed nap -- in place of starting to do the WORK we both really needed to do.

So, I just woke up at past 3 a.m. -- and now I'll go do the garbage and recyling and head to bed. (We've got another very busy day in front of us tomorrow, after all.)

Yes. I do know I shouldn't resent that funeral. But it's by far the worst one I've ever attended in my life.

And I've been to a lot of funerals -- both good and bad. I used to attend every single family funeral, bar none (even as a young child). And I've been to so many work-related funerals, that I've lost count. I could list a dozen things about this one that were just plain bad, but I won't bother. We were there, as we needed to be -- but I'm not happy about the time spent. I don't feel good about it at all, or that it made a bit of difference that we attended. Look, I'm just being honest here. I can't help wondering how many other people felt the same way...

And in my opinion, that's not how a person should feel about attending a funeral. Ever.

A funeral should be an experience that is at least somewhat meaningful to every person who attends it -- which isn't that hard to manage, in my opinion. I've been to far more good funerals than bad, after all...

Well, as it's late, I'll drop it. I'm tired and I now need to get this work done so I can go to bed.

Hopefully someone came away from that funeral feeling better, anyway, though a funeral that lasts that long has doubtful ability to be comforting.

Again, less is more, friends. It's often amazing how much can be said and felt in an hour, by the way. Keep that in mind when planning a funeral. It's the best advice I can give anyone.

Tags: 2008, funeral, may-2008, work

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