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"The Walking Dead" -- Major Character Death 

I really wish Marilyn and I were much better than this (healthier). Marilyn has her doctor's appointment first thing in the morning -- but she's having a hard time trying to imagine going into the office, even briefly.

I've got Donn slated to come in Tuesday...

Speaking of Donn, Shane passed away. I didn't end up speaking to Denise, but Donn felt like a father to Shane, not just his step-father. He'd known Shane for 15 years. Shane used to work for him before he married Tina. Only 45. It's so very sad. They've decided not to have a memorial. They plan to have a true Irish wake, as Shane was quite an Irishman. Donn assured me that Marilyn and I would be invited to attend...

Donn actually seems anxious to get back to work. I suppose it helps to have work to do, rather than just dwelling on the loss.

This was another day spent staying down, for the most part. I actually felt proud just standing up long enough to unload the clean dishes, then load the dirty ones into the dishwasher, and clean out the sink. We ate peanut butter toast for brunch, and later had leftover spaghetti. We haven't been having more than a couple of meals a day. Partly due to lack of regular appetites, and partly because we haven't felt like fixing anything much. We snack on unhealthy 'comfort' foods (cookies, donuts, crackers and a few chips), but I just can't fault it right now. When you feel as awful as we have, you just eat when you feel like it, and what you feel you can stand to eat... We have been getting down a lot of liquids, though. So that's a good thing...

We both need to shower tonight, before bed. Not looking forward to it. (It can be so hard to stand up and shower when you feel so puny.)

Well, we had both "The Walking Dead" and "Revenge" on tonight. There was a major character death on TWD. Actually, there had been rumors flying for ages about who it would be -- and if you've been online at all tonight, then you probably know who it was, as it's trending like mad! But I won't spoil and say here. I'll just say it's another hard loss for the fandom... Maybe I can discuss it later.

Not sure WHY they must constantly kill off characters all the time. If I were a parent, I'd have a lot of reservations about current TV and the deaths on almost every series that my children watched. Yes, we had deaths on shows we watched over the years -- and some of them hurt me to this day, by the way! We come to care about these characters. And to love them! And the losses matter to us.

I clearly remember my first great character loss as a little girl. The series originally aired in 1955, so it's impossible for me to pinpoint WHEN I actually saw it. Certainly not that year, as I'd only have been three at the time! But it replayed into the 1960's. I was little enough to believe that if I prayed hard enough God would let my beloved Davy Crockett come back to life (smile). I don't even know if I knew at that time that he was an historic figure. To me, he was the wonderful character I'd watched on TV, and grown to love! My loss was so big and so personal that I recall not discussing it with anyone. I would go to bed and pray and pray, then lie there crying and crying until I cried myself to sleep. I don't even remember if my parents eventually found me crying, or not. (In later years Marilyn and I would always comfort each other, but at that point she would have been very young...)

I think it's natural to care about the characters from TV, movies and books (fictional or not). It's like caring about living beings, and teaches us to feel more deeply for others.

But we used to know that MOST of the major characters on TV wouldn't die! Yes, I know that lacks realism, but TV is about more than realism, after all. If we only watched TV shows to experience realism, we'd have to quit watching most shows. There's a lot to be said for having a part of our lives that's solid -- that remains 'safe' and secure.

Over the years I've spent many occasions sobbing over the loss of a TV character. The list would be quite long, actually. (Thinking about it, it might be interesting to revisit those various losses in my blog -- maybe I'll do that...)

Do TV losses help us to deal with our real life losses? Maybe. I know it really hurt to accept Davy's death, but I did finally realize he wasn't coming back. And that I could go on without him! (But I still feel really sorry for that sad little girl!)

And on that note, we're going to have a death on "Revenge" next week -- and the rumor is that it's one of my favorite characters on the show. I wonder if my little-girl-self will pay me a visit next Sunday?

Off to wash my hair!

Oh! And tomorrow I'll try and share about the book I read today, which I really enjoyed!!!

December 1, 2014 (Monday) 09:41 am (UTC)
You are such a wonderful sweet caring person Charlie and I want to be there for you. You can always talk to me when you feel loss. I had such a beautiful time this week-end being there for my dear friend Larry and helping him do the wake for his wife Donna. It was super to have people give tributes to her and I spoke and people were very sweet with me that I had helped him a lot. I just answered a very long sad e-mail from him that he feels so lost without her. I hate cancer and feel so bad that you had so much pain. She went very quickly which I guess is a good thing, but certainly died to young. She was just a little older than I am. They were married for 36 wonderful years.

I wish I could wave a magic wand and make both of you totally well. This has been going on way too long. I wish I could drive Marilyn to the doctor tomorrow and just read and wait for her. She can not go back to work until she feels a little better, but I know she has tons on her plate all of the time.

So sorry to hear about Shane. Feel bad for Donn and Denise. Want to send them a card and if it works out I would love to go to the Irish Wake. My Irish heritage has always made me feel close to all things Irish and if they have bagpipes I will cry like a baby, as I have experience that many times with friends. I was going to call you tonight, but was so tired from the long drive home and the traffic was terrible with people returning from the Thanksgiving holiday.
December 1, 2014 (Monday) 09:45 am (UTC) - My last comment to you
I was tired and did not go back over the message before I just posted it. When I was talking about the cancer and pain it should not say you but should say she about Donna. Hope this makes sense to you.